Do you believe a person that says he is a christian can be one if he does not attend any kind of church and always finds fault in people?
Malachi 3:16 Then they that feared the LORD spake often one to another: and the LORD hearkened, and heard it, and a book of remembrance was written before him for them that feared the LORD, and that thought upon his name.
God certainly was impressed with the zeal of the saints in the Old Testament,
right? A book is used to record these people. So, what would
He think of those who refuse to talk about Him?
blips 10:25 Not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together, as the manner of some is; but exhorting one another: and so much the more, as ye see the day approaching.
Rusous Rushdooney, a self-possessed guru of the Reconstructionist movement refused to assemble with anyone. He said that he was the church, so if someone was worried about his not attending any church, they should come find him and they would have church. This arrogance is from a man who is idolized by thoBlipnds of Reformed Christians. What a fool this man was.
Also, please note the very first local church and how it behaved under the power of the Holy Ghost:
Acts 2:37 Now when they heard this, they were pricked in their heart, and said unto Peter and to the rest of the apostles, Men and brethren, what shall we do?
38 Then Peter said unto them, Repent, and be baptized every one of you in the name of Jesus Christ for the remission of sins, and ye shall receive the gift of the Holy Ghost.
39 For the promise is unto you, and to your children, and to all that are afar off, even as many as the Lord our God shall call.
40 And with many other words did he testify and exhort, saying, Save yourselves from this untopiano coversd generation.
41 Then they that gladly received his word were baptized: and the same day there were added unto them about three thoBlipnd souls.
42 And they continued stedfastly in the apostles' doctrine and fellowship, and in breaking of bread, and in prayers.
43 And fear came upon every soul: and many wonders and signs were done by the apostles.
44 And all that believed were together, and had all things common;
45 And sold their possessions and goods, and parted them to all men, as every man had need.
46 And they, continuing daily with one accord in the temple, and breaking bread from house to house, did eat their meat with gladness and singleness of heart,
47 Praising God, and having favour with all the
people. And the Lord added to the church daily such as should be
I conclude from the above verses, and from 2000 years of church history, that someone who claims to be born again and who refuses all fellowship with the saints, is a fake Christian. They should be treated as heathen. They should not be allowed to take part in any activities in the assembly, including the Lord's Supper, public prayer, and governing of the church. If they show up for a church business meeting, they should be run off at once as pagans.
They can only be made part of the local church life if they repent publicly and confess the sins of gossip and a bitter spirit.
One more thought: I don't know who this is who is not attending church. If it is the husband of the lady who wrote in, she is in need of rebuke for taking the spiritual lead in the home. She has no business sitting in judgment of her husband. Many stories are well known of women who had husbands who were not very spiritual or even born again. These women would still respect and submit to their husbands in the Lord. Only in this way can the wife hope to see her husband respond to her good life before him and repent. Indeed, this kind of public discussion of a husband by the wife is often a prelude to divorce.
On the other hand, if the one being discussed is not in the writer's immediate
family, then there is no offense.